Universal personality traits exist across cultures, genders, and sexual orientations. I think it’s wise for women to understand their personality as it illuminates the traits that they have that can make them fall prey to a trauma bond relationship. I use the FFM, The Big Five, because it is the most scientifically valid measure of personality.
The FFM was developed to define as much variety as possible in individuals’ personalities using only five categories of traits.
The five traits are openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.
The Kind, Hard-Working Woman
Women who score with high agreeableness and high conscientiousness.
Highly agreeable women are trusting, straightforward, generous, compliant (peacekeeping), modest (humble), and tender-minded (empathetic). These inherent personality traits make her blind to PL’s red flags.
Highly conscientious women are competent, making them expert problem-solvers; they value order, which motivates them to resolve chaos by any means; they are dutiful, which makes them responsible; they are achievement-strivers, which makes them resourceful, driven, and devoted; and they are self-disciplined and deliberate, fueling them to ride out the storm for long-term gains.
High conscientiousness explains why women cannot leave trauma bonds or stay for longer than they should.
The Dependent Woman
Women with dependent personality disorder score high in agreeableness, low in conscientiousness, and high in neuroticism.
This combination of being kind and trusting mixed with self-doubt makes her prey to a trauma bond.
The C-PTSD Woman
Women with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD)
C-PTSD is generated by adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), which include abuse and neglect. The little girl who experiences abuse or neglect in her earliest relationships grows into a woman who believes love includes abuse and neglect.
The woman with C-PTSD scores high in conscientiousness, which makes her achievement striving. She scores low in agreeableness (very low in trust and compliance, but average to high in tender-mindedness), which creates the illusion that she cannot be manipulated, causes her to lash out in self-defensive anger when she is harmed, and makes her tender to her lover’s pain.
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