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October is not just about pumpkin spice lattes and

October is not just about pumpkin spice lattes and cozy sweaters—it's Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Domestic violence (DV) includes physical, psychological, emotional, verbal, sexual, financial, and even spiritual abuse. And what's a result of this kind of abuse from a Pathological Lover?

Trauma bonding.

Trauma bonds involve a complex interplay of charm, coercion, and control, making it challenging to run like hell away from the abuse!

DV is NEVER acceptable, and everyone deserves to live in a safe, nurturing environment. If you find yourself in this situation, remember that you aren't alone. Reach out, seek help, and continue to educate yourself. Don’t know where to start? Go to my website for comprehensive DV resources. It’s linked in my stories.

#domesticviolenceawarenessmonth #traumabonding #domesticvilence #drnae #traumabonds

If you don’t do this, leaving your trauma bond w

If you don’t do this, leaving your trauma bond will be dangerous. Planning your escape behind the scenes while maintaining “normalcy” to your PL’s face is the only way to leave the trauma bond safely, because as soon as your PL finds out you’re leaving all hell will break loose. If you prepare to escape safely and quietly, when the time comes, you can run like hell and never turn back.

My book can help you truly RUN LIKE HELL from damaging trauma bonds and live with awareness, practice self-love and care, and thrive, regardless of your past. Click on the link in my bio to pre order and check out additional resources, assessments, worksheets, meditations, and more to guide you through your healing journey.

#runlikehell #drnae #preorder #traumabonding #narcissisticabuseawareness #healing

Love you, John! 22 years of marriage and you’re

Love you, John! 22 years of marriage and you’re STILL THE ONE. XXOO

#HappyAnniversary #healthylove #stillnewlyweds

The dynamics of trauma bonding are complex and oft

The dynamics of trauma bonding are complex and often distressing. Narcissistic pathological lovers (PLs) possess the ability for exploiting vulnerabilities in order to have control over their partner in toxic relationships. Love, which should be a source of respect and support, becomes entangled in a complex web of fear, control, and confusion.

If you find yourself in a trauma bond, you are in a violent attachment. This isn’t a figment of your imagination, it’s a harsh reality that has a real and profound impact on your life and well-being. Acknowledging this is vital if you want to change the situation.

Resources, tools, and support are available for free on my website to help you. Don’t forget to pre order my book, Run Like Hell! I wrote it to help women like you understand more about the trauma bonding paradox of love so you can recognize these bonds, break free, and heal.

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#traumabonding #runlikehell #preorder #relationshipexpert #cptsd #narcissisticabuse #toxic

Last week, I talked with Caroline Stanbury on her

Last week, I talked with Caroline Stanbury on her podcast shared some valuable information about trauma bonds, red flags, narcissism, divorce, and healing.

When stuck in a trauma bond, it’s difficult to leave a narcissist (or as I call them, Pathological Lovers). But when you stay, you lose your sense of self. Rediscovering yourself after leaving a trauma bond is extremely hard, but it’s also beautiful. The result of feeling at home in your authentic self is worth it, and you will get there.

Tune in to the episode of Uncut and Uncensored, it’s one that I believe every woman should listen to! And if you want to learn more about trauma bonding, visit my website for free assessments, worksheets, and resources.

#podcast #traumabonding #narcissism #selflove #empowerment

This is a fun little detail included in the Wolf o

This is a fun little detail included in the Wolf of Wall Street that’s 100% true! When the movie was being written, I was having lunch with the writer Terry Winters and I asked the server for a straw to drink my wine. He got a kick out of it, so he put it in the movie. But it’s 100% true and keeps the veneers white! I thought it was great. The NY Post even wrote an article recently about this detail in the movie. Who knew the reason behind asking for a straw would be so popular!

If you watch the movie and have any questions for me about the trauma bond experience, ask in the comments. I might make a video answering your question on Instagram or TikTok, so make sure you’re following me on both platforms!

#wolfofwallstreet #funnystory #behindthescenes

You might think you should have known better, left

You might think you should have known better, left sooner, or fought back harder. But please hear me when I say this: You need to stop blaming yourself. It is NOT your fault you were trauma bonded to a narcissistic Pathological Lover.

PLs specifically and strategically target those who are empathetic and caring and who will give them chance after chance out of loyalty and compassion. Remember this so you can protect yourself from similar situations in the future and recognize the manipulative, calculated patterns PLs will actively put you through.

#traumabonding #selflove #healing #narcissisticabuse #cptsd

We have 6-12,000 thoughts a day! Many of these tho

We have 6-12,000 thoughts a day! Many of these thoughts are intrusive and unwanted, called ruminations. Ruminations are a significant symptom caused by Trauma Bonds. When you ruminate, you rethink situations, analyze them, and replay them repeatedly without forming a plan.

It is NOT problem-solving!

So what should you do?

When you catch yourself overthinking, ask yourself: Is this helpful? Does it give me energy?

If the answer is no, use your mind to control your brain, stop that train of thinking, and re-direct your thoughts.

I have many other tips to stop rumination in my book-- Run Like Hell. And visit my website, where I have specific worksheets about ruminations.

#traumabonding #ruminating #mindfulness #relationshipexpert #drnae

Note to my younger self…. Mistakes, failures,

Note to my younger self….

Mistakes, failures, and rejection are not signs of failure, they're proof that you're trying. Don't let embarrassment or humiliation hold you back when these things happen. Instead, wear them as badges of courage and resilience for facing your fears head-on and move on, try again.

You will find healthy love, and be accepted for who you are entirely by someone who is loving, respectful, and honest. You will turn your experience into a teaching lesson for others. You will do it for yourself, your children, and other women who find themselves in a similar situation.

A note to my followers…

If you’re one of those women, you are not alone. I understand what you’re going through and I’ve created completely free worksheets, assessments, and other resources to help you on my website. Please go look. The link is in my bio.

#notetoself #traumabonding #healing #youarenotalone #cptsd

Pathological Lovers (PLs) manipulate and use tacti

Pathological Lovers (PLs) manipulate and use tactics that create self-doubt to confuse you. Gaslighting, lying, Insulting, and threatening to make you feel fear and confusion.

So, of course, you’re feeling low! You’re asking yourself… What happened? Why do I feel like a shell of myself? You aren’t to blame for what happened. The only person who could have stopped the abuse was your PL, not you. It would help if you had self-compassion to build your self-esteem. Take the self-compassion assessment on my website, and if you need support giving yourself compassion, listen to the free self-compassion meditation.

Most importantly, remember that you will find yourself again. You will fall in love with who you are again. Just take it day by day. Healing is NOT linear. Be gentle. Take care. You are not alone.

#traumabonding #narcissisticabuseawareness #healingjourney

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