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This picture says it all! Who would have known 32

This picture says it all! Who would have known 32 years ago when I walked down the stairs with my Maltese Rocky in my arms at my west Hampton house that a conversation about allergies would have turned into a life-long friendship. This picture says it all:, laughter, Rug-rats, love and trust. God danced the day you were born sista! And the best is yet to come ❤️💃💕❤️🥰💃💕

The Weapons of Coercive Control are:⁠ ⁠ Decept

The Weapons of Coercive Control are:⁠
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Deception, Exploitation, Isolation, and Intimidation and are mainly invisible to others. ⁠
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Such behaviors maintain Power and Control without potentially subjecting abusers to legal trouble. ⁠
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You must know the tactics of Coercive Control to avoid them.

BOUNDARY TIP 💡 If someone pushes back or dislik

BOUNDARY TIP 💡 If someone pushes back or dislikes your boundary, respond with, "I didn't set this boundary to either offend or please you. I did it to manage the priorities and goals I have set for my life."

Healing involves connecting to your inner world of

Healing involves connecting to your inner world of authentic thoughts and emotions.⁠
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Developing self-awareness about your values, what you stand for, and what you will not sacrifice –⁠
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Then acting on this awareness.

We are often pawns in a love game we do not unders

We are often pawns in a love game we do not understand. ⁠
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A trauma bond starts with promises of tenderness, trust, and safety between two seemingly honest individuals. ⁠
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Passion and obsession seal the bond. ⁠
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Yet a dramatic attachment manifests when your partner changes the game’s rules. ⁠
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His kindness and warmth become lies and threats. ⁠
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Your once-charming soulmate now feels like a possessive cellmate. ⁠
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Pathological partners are forceful, controlling, a

Pathological partners are forceful, controlling, and invasive. They dominate your life and push their agenda forward, regardless of how you feel or what you say. ⁠
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Setting limits with them about the littlest things is IMPOSSIBLE. Let alone the big things. PLs hate boundaries because limits get in the way of meeting their selfish needs for comfort, power, and pleasure.

Understanding how to enforce your personal limits

Understanding how to enforce your personal limits are a necessary life skill for healthy relationships. Sometimes, this means disappointing your lover – and that's ok.⁠
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Putting a boundary in effect is impossible when you live with a pathological lover whose primary mission is to have power over you. ⁠
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Healthy boundaries must be flexible enough to have an intimate connection but firm enough to protect your self-respect and allow you to assert your "no" and "yes."

Self-betrayal causes you to abandon yourself, whic

Self-betrayal causes you to abandon yourself, which causes you to lose your identity, which makes it easier for your partner to control and abuse you. ⁠
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Ironically, the longer you are with a pathological partner, the more you self-betray and self-abandon. They wear you down with control and domination.⁠
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👉🏼 When you leave a trauma bond, breaking the pattern of self-abandonment is CRITICAL to recovering.

In a trauma bond, your partner criticizes you when

In a trauma bond, your partner criticizes you when you wash the dishes differently than he does. So you decide to do it his way.⁠
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He calls you dramatic and ridiculous for eating gluten-free, even though your health requires it, so you give in.⁠
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Survivors don't realize how they self-abandon daily while in love with a pathological person. Pathological lovers hate boundaries because limits get in the way of meeting their selfish needs for comfort, power, and pleasure.

Time and space can lead you to forget the bad and

Time and space can lead you to forget the bad and remember the good. ⁠
Do you really miss them? Or do you miss the idea them?

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